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Advice, quick
| So I tried over the last few years, and idk got a few months once. Over the last week I was visiting family, and didn’t masturbate at all because it might have been awkward and I was so engaged and relaxed. Got home, just came haha. My one advice I really do believe in is to pull up porn you enjoy, fix a your hand in a ring, covered in oil, and fuck it with a good rythem. I think when it’s quicker and more active, it’s healthier. I also eat my cum to avoid nutrient loss.
| I know that might not be what you’re looking for and I really do wish you happiness and success. I think finding pride in your porn and porn you’re proud of also helped me. Many people look at 3d stuff which I worry about the actors and the degenerate vibe. I feel good with rapey hentai from gelbooru, itch.io games, and stories, though I haven’t played the games much. Evencicle was also really nice I like bring the mc and having sex as him but I deleted my save.
| I keep all my porn on my pc in a vm but RDP in from my phone while fucking my fist in the bathroom. Idk I think it’s nice to have things separate. The typical advice is to find what you’re missing trying to fill through porn and meet that. Socializing for instance or having sex with others. Idk porn meets my desire for fun and stimulation personally, but every day I’ve jerked off many times had been usually a bad one.
| There was also that group who weren’t nofap. I read through their book twice, got a little ways while I was at a low point in my life but ultimately did not stop. Their thing was to say ‘I am free, I do not actually want to masturbate, this is the last time I ever will’ and masturbate one last time while disliking it and noticing that. I can’t for the life of me find it because of the biases and shillery of search engines. There was an audio version with an Ozzie or Kiwi accent.
| I’ve enjoyed the fasts and things I’ve done though, I hope you will find joy in your time not masturbating. I never stopped, but my own journey probably made me more thoughtful, and I think it’s great you’re trying this! Is there something you’d like to schedule doing with the time you save? You could go for a bike ride and get ice cream with friends during your usual time for instance… I would certainly go with you ; ) (this may be a ploy to steal your cute sperm ;3 )
| Usually it happens as a cope against stress like smoking or drugs
Throw yourself out and find a new pacing to live on
Like, try to interrupt any responsabilities and such for a few days and try to keep up the same mood when the days off end.
| I stopped taking amphetamines and my sex drive plummeted faster than Building Seven.
If you aren’t a degen drug abuser I can’t help you. I’m trying to get my sex drive back up.
| Just turn off aimbot and have only noclip activated. That way you will always miss the spot and you will always noclip through yourself. Add godmode as a safety measure if are really scared of losing your HP.
| I love sex.
| >>1023270 so i guess i should just find something else do huh? I barely get out of my house and honestly have nothing to do outside or anyone to go out with. Everything i do i do online, and what i've been doing when i want to jack off is just to... not jack off at all. Which works but y'know, the sex drive is still there.
| Also i'm a 20 year old guy, living on my parents house, who they don't know i jack off, and i had phases where i stopped jacking off for like months and i believe that my performance on life somehow improved, i don't know how this works but feel like it did. So i wanna stop jacking off again and see what results i get outta of it.
| >>1023333
Honestly getting out and having stuff to do probably will help a lot. If you’re cooped up you’re naturally going to look for stimulation in one form or another. I’m sure there’s meetups in your area for something you’re interested in.
| Have sex and have fun.
| Easiest way to stop jacking off is to have sex
| Have sex and have fun
| https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9LqbxR-sy0s
| >>1023356 if only i could leave the house. My parents don't allow me to, and i grew up my entire life up to this point inside the safety of my home. If i asked them to go out now they'll probably will find it very weird and suspicious and won't let me.
| >>1023426 your problems are much more severe than sex.
your parents are afraid of the world, and they are infantilizing you.
they are taking away your ability to become an adult.
this will kill you.
by not allowing you to make your own choices, mistakes, and decisions, they are robbing you of vital life experiences and the opportunity to build resilience. you can't resist the temptation of your genitals when you have never had the chance to resist the temptations of the world.
| i implore you to resist the temptation of falling back into the safety of being their property, to be disposed of as they wish. it's your life to live, and by making your own choices, you will learn to navigate the complexities of adulthood, develop self-reliance, and build a life that is truly your own. including as little and as much sex and masturbation as you want, because *you* are going to be in control of it.
| >>1023426 I don't believe that this is a real situation. Where are your doubts?
In what do you even believe for?
>>1023431 Although you're making her face a better reality, I don't think it's rightful to expect someone coming from the jungle to match any urban standard.
| Yeah, I’m 25, still in my parents house too. We don’t talk about sex or anything at all. I let them do this to me because I was a coward. They actually say they want me to go live, they just kinda laugh at me actually doing things, or call to check on me if I’m out late or make a friend. How the fuck do people just voice chat at home?
| I just need to keep developing guts to piss them off, somehow work skills, and friends so they’re not my only support structure, but I’m so scared of being doxed or mobbed on discord, I play a pale worksafe persona and hate those I meet under it. Wishing you luck.
| And thank you to this site. I really enjoy the person I am with you g/u/rls. I wish I could make you happier, I’ve had a lot of laughs from your posts
| >>1023453 do your best to branch out! you deserve friends who share your real interests, online or in person
| >>1023431 man, if i only knew where to start. I'm pretty much in a powerless situation currently and honestly i would be lying if i said i wasn't confortable with the way things are right now. I got held back in middle school three times and i'm currently in my second year of highschool while my friends from back then are probably already out and about in the world.
| I don't even have a stable job really, the one thing i could call "work" is just my stepfather bussiness which i NEVER showed up to work consistently, and the days i did, i was pretty much just a third helping hand in which he didn't paid. I started working with him since i was what? 16? 17? And it never worked since today, they just send me to his work because then don't want me stay inside the house all day.
| Plus, they're both christian. Imagine what a extra handful that makes them be if you know how christian parents tend to be.
| That really sucks : ( I’m sending hugs. I think you’re still brave for looking at this whole thing and talking about it! Do you wanna learn programming with me or anything? I had some cool physics teachers in high school and read lots of terry pratchet and that helped a lot. I hope tomorrow goes well for you!!
| >>1023499 Don't know how i would go about that, but i hope it could be fun. But i think the right thing to do is to get some part time job at somewhere which is impossible to do on my own i'm "guessing" since i don't have a clue on how to start. Get my own money, finish high school and see what do i wanna do from there. And thanks for the hugs by the way, much appreciated. :)
| As of today it seems like i'm not working with my stepfather anymore due to a argument we had. We always butted heads both at work and at home and could never get on a common ground. He doesn't like my flaws and ways and i don't like his ways and flaws either.
| Now that they talked to me about getting work somewhere else they're like: "Now you're gonna learn how to follow work hours/routine and comply with what your boss tells out with the risk of getting fired."
| But i'm like "i'll show them it'll be different, the problem was because i was working under an asshole i don't respect." Is what i tell myself, but frankly there's a reason i got held back 3 times at middle school.
| I don't like studying. I don't study. And i struggle at studying in the first place because i have slightly above average adhd and a very low level of autism. I take medications and all of that but y'know, i still suck at school.
| So while i tell myself that things will be different, that i'll work like i never worked before because i'm working for someone that actually pays me and i THANKFULLY don't know all that well- part of me fears that in the end i'll suck at working too because i hate it.
| I think that's the entire scope of my living situation. Any thoughts anybody? Any advice to help even a little bit?
| >>1023596
If you can notice the problem you can make it smaller, and manage it to the best possible outcome, even if that outcome isn’t a full solution.
>>1023586
That sounds like a good plan <3 can you make some friends at school or are there any teachers you like? They could give you advice, opportunities, and support. My physics teacher told me not to go to the college I dropped out of.
>>1023597
I think you actually could do well eventually, these things take time.
| >>1023598
You’ll probably get tired after the first burst of energy- but that’s not a defeat. It’s like learning to run. You get better over time. I’m pretty unemployed and kinda hopeless about post college, but last year I was failing all my classes and this year I made dean’s list, partially by cheating. Occasionally I imagine I’m a time traveler sent back to this body to live the best life it possibly can! But only occasionally. Usually I have trouble caring too.
| >>1023600 I luckly have a group of 5 friends that are better than the friends i had at my first year of high school, during summer i plan on doing some things to make us closer after school is done this year, like playing some homebrewed table top rpg sessions in our homes, at least my parents allow that. I don't wanna lose the connection i have with them after school's done, at this point in my life, i'm aware hoe important keeping connections post school is.
| There's also one teacher at school that acts as my counceller- (council? I don't know the exact word, sorry.) - she's doesn't exactly see's eye to eye with my mom, but appreciate the full throttle support she gives me. Every session i have with her, she's the one i'm venting to the most and she pinky promised that if i beat all three years she will be at my graduation to see me. So here's hoping. I appreciate her a lot.
| >>1023619
yeah I had one friend in highschool and he's been really good for me I think all these years down the line. our hobbies got a little different but IDK we're still passionate about joking around together and talking. maybe you could do a tiny bit of that now?
| >>1023622
that's really great! I bet you're going to make her happy, even if everything doesn't go perfect by doing your best : )
| I wonder if she'd have any advice on the job. I think the typical advice is don't do it if you don't have to, which has some merit, but idk part of my being stuck at home is having no money
| When you hit 30, your sex drive dies and your body begins falling apart
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| I am currently fighting agains't my habit of jacking off every evening because i said "fuck you i'm stronger than my habits!" But this is currently the toughest opponent i ever faced, so i need advice to win this habit over at least this one time.
(Not a joke by the way, i really wanna stop jacking off for at least a few days from now on, anybody has good advice to deal with this?)